Like all things in life , learning too starts at a very very early age. If I were to give a number I would say as early as the mothers womb. A lot of material is available on the internet about different kinds of learning and how events effect our personality etc. I will not not go it to all that.
I will like to share a story very dear to me personally with you all.
Going back to 1958 a young boy of around 8 year is strolling and jumping near his home in a government officers housing scheme in Mid-town Lahore.
This boy, lets call him him Shani , to his surprising delight notices some money on the street. He is more over joyed by the prospects of what that money can get him than the surprise of actually spotting it.
In 1958 for a boy of 8 this was very well a small fortune! Shani’s mind ran across what he wanted to do MOST in this world.
Shani thought and thought and quickly he came to a singular conclusion. His most loving desire was to suck on Sugar cane cubes ( AKA Gandarees) .
Just imagine yourself at 8 years getting a bag full of M&M’s or Mars … now you can relate to Shani.
Shani is on top of the sixth heaven. He keeps sucking the Gandarees and he gets so lost that he doesnt realize he is late getting back home.
Back home everyone was getting worried. Now Shani’s Mom passed away when he was very little and he had a number of older brothers and sisters. Being the youngest and perhaps somewhat pampered – his absence caused an uproar and confusion.
Almost everyone went out looking for him. A dozen or so long minutes later Shani was located in the park…lost in his world of Gandarees.
Long story short – he was brought back to his home and everyone wanted to know where he got so many Gandarees from??
Words were thrown around and a general sense of anger and disgust was growing.
Visiting that day was Shani’s maternal Aunt. Her husband has just got a new Fiat and wanted to drive the kids around 🙂
In the midst of all the anger and resentment at a lost soul who was now destined to be the next dacoit of Pakistan 😉 Shani’s Aunt calls him and sits him on her lap.
She asks him where he got the Gandarees from. He in all innocence replies that he found 6 Rupees on the road and continues to tell the rest of his tale.
His Aunt asks him to produce the remaining 5 and Half Rupees and show that he is telling the truth. He promptly does so from the pocket of his shorts.
His Aunt takes the Half rupee coin and gives him a one rupee coin and tells him to go back and put the whole 6 Rupees back exactly where he found them.
She send him alone , unattended. Shani goes and puts the money exactly where he found it and returns in a short while and shares the completion of the task with his Aunt.
His Aunt then explains to him that he should never take what is not his. This is not how we were brought up. Then she tells his father not to scold him as he has learnt his lesson.
Then , she takes out the Half rupee coin she had kept earlier and gave it to Shani and said ” Enjoy your Gandarees again another day whenever you want. This is your reward for being honest”
What Shani did with that other Half Rupee is a mystery to me.
However what I can tell you is that Shani grew up to be a very ethical and morally upright person with numerous successes in life.
So, my little note to this is that we must try to inculcate these and more basic moral values in our kids at an early age so that they are not confused about them as they grow up and leave home to learn and venture on their own. It is these basic guidelines that will help them build more complex principles in life and give them success.
Till next time 🙂